You are always being guided. Even when it doesn't feel like it.

You are always being guided. Even when it doesn't feel like it.

I’m writing to you from Sweden today. We are visiting my in-laws.

The boys just went fishing with their dad and granddad (farfar in Swedish). Their squeals of excitement are still ringing in my ears, filling my body with sparkles of joy.

The clouds are high in the sky; mostly white with a few speckles of grey. The sun is peaking through on occasion. It might rain soon. Typically the wind irritates me, but today the wind has a soft, caressing quality. It feels nice on my skin. Even the occasional goosebumps don’t bother me.

I sat down to do some writing, to connect with you, because, even though I don’t know most of you personally, I miss you.

I know this might sound strange. Sometimes I think that this whole online world –writing a blog and running a virtual business– is so odd.

NYC reminded me… + it’s my birthday

Today is my birthday, so I wanted to send you a special email about a few personal discoveries I have recently made and see if, by sharing them with you, you might gain some new insight as well.

I recently spent a week in NYC (if you’re curious, check out my instagram).

In case you don’t know, I used to live in NYC for seven years before moving to San Francisco. In fact, Raz and I went from boyfriend ad girlfriend to husband and wife and Felix was born while we lived in Brooklyn. Big milestones happened in the arms of NYC.

Returning to my old stomping grounds (with two kids in tow), I realized a few things:

2 steps to better hormones, more energy & a lighter mood

2 steps to better hormones, more energy & a lighter mood

Do you know that nearly 80% of women suffer from some kind of hormonal imbalance resulting in a slew of physical and mental health challenges?

When we hear “hormonal imbalance” most people think of thyroid disorders (hypo- or hyperthyroidism, Hashimoto, or Graves disease), PCOS, amenorrhea, endometriosis etc.

However, there is a whole host of other, more subtle hormonal imbalances that are making life unpleasant for so many women. These include, for example, estrogen dominance, low estrogen, luteal phase defect, thyroid levels that are borderline, or cortisol levels that are off or symptomatic of adrenal fatigue.

She said: "Caroline, I feel bloated, emotional, and irritated"

She said: "Caroline, I feel bloated, emotional, and irritated"

Afterwards, a woman came up to me and said "Caroline, I love everything you shared and identify with so much of what was talked about tonight, but I just feel so bloated, emotional and irritable after having my second child that I feel like I just cannot focus on doing all the work I know I need to do to move forward."

Ahh yes! 

Whenever I start working with a new client, I assess where they are: Is their ground solid, stable and balanced and are they ready to start envisioning, creating, and actively building the life they want? Or, is their base shaky and needs to be stabilized first?

Are you tired of being under construction?

Are you tired of being under construction?

I’ve been thinking a lot about the concept of “enoughness.”

Lately it has become so crystal clear to me that people –and women in particular– are chronically driven by the idea that somehow they are not enough, don’t do enough, aren’t successful enough, aren’t thin enough, beautiful enough, valuable enough…

The struggle for more, better, and thinner in order to then (hopefully) be happy, is real.

But what if we finally said “ENOUGH!”

You are the SUN

I’ve been solo parenting this week because my husband is in NYC for work.

In general, single mommy-ing it this week went really well and the boys and I had a great time. And then there were those 2-3 times where both boys had meltdowns, tugging at the same toy, screeching, throwing food, I got frustrated and yelled, everyone freaked out and we ended up on the floor taking slow breathes and saying our “I’m sorry!”s and “I love you”s.

Over the last few days, I remembered one of the most important lessons in my journey of motherhood so far: I, as the parent and the mother in particular, set the emotional tone in my family.

Is your weight/ body making you feel LESS VALUABLE?

Is your weight/ body making you feel LESS VALUABLE?

Over the years of working intimately in the space of women’s inner lives (their fears and desires), their hormonal health, their relationships, their career changes, the welcoming of babies, the transition into motherhood and so many more common and unique scenarios, I know one thing for sure:

The way we feel in our bodies matters.

In fact, it’s huge.

When a woman feels good in her body, the way she shows up in the world shifts dramatically.

Neither you nor your kids have to rush all the time

I know that you and I are both aware of this: the rushing, the increasing busy-ness of life, the never-ending to-dos…

Have you ever paid attention to how much you use the words “really quick,” “just 2 minutes,” “hurry,” “fast” and how much you use them with yourself AND with your kids?

I hadn’t even noticed how much this “rush-centered” vocabulary had snuck into my everyday language and my everyday way of being until my husband pointed it out to me about a year ago:

Do you belong where you currently are?

Do you belong where you currently are?

This post is emerging from my deepest parts, because I have been asking, wondering, questioning about where I belong for a while now.

Born in Sonoma Valley, CA.

Raised in Germany.

Moved from coast to coast numerous times; the Bay Area, Boston, NYC, Austin - you are all familiar to me.

I find myself tired of looking for a home that FEELS like home. And yet, I cannot imagine not to belong, not to feel resonance with the earth I live on and the people I live next to. Surrendering that search does not feel like an option to me.

Emily's marriage was slowly dying. Here's how she turned it around.

Emily's marriage was slowly dying. Here's how she turned it around.

I’m sharing this story with you with full permission and encouragement from a former client who remains a dear acquaintance today and serves as a passionate advocate for women and mothers. Her name and all other names in this story have been changed, but her story is real.

I received an email from Emily a few months after she had her second baby. In her email she shared with me that she felt overwhelmed, often teary-eyed and what felt like “overly emotional.” She was unsure what she wanted to do with her career – did she want to scale back? Or maybe, stay at home full time? What would that mean for the family’s finances?

She wrote “I feel like I cannot get a grip on anything, including myself.”

The recipe for happiness

The recipe for happiness

When people come to coaching, it's usually because they're at a crossroads of some sorts. Something in their life isn't working. Some people may be dissatisfied in a particular area, others experience an overall unhappiness that they cannot quite pinpoint. 

Whatever the case may be, everybody has a wish -and a deep-seated hope!- for more happiness. 

Today, I want to share with you the recipe FOR happiness. This is a concept I adapted from Tony Robbins and it is profound, and yet, very simple. 

What the heck is seed cycling? And, can it help you?

What the heck is seed cycling? And, can it help you?

Have you heard about seed cycling?

If not, in a nutshell, seed cycling is a tool used to help regulate your hormones.

It is an amazing, yet gentle tool that I have taught to many of my clients to help them balance their hormones– no matter what stage they are in (period problems during their reproductive years, pre-pregnancy/ enhancing fertility, post-hormonal birth control, postpartum, pre-menopause, or even post-menopause).

Personally, I just started seed cycling (again), because I finally weaned Hendrix completely a few months ago and with that, my period returned.

Let's talk about working out

Let's talk about working out

Do you love it? Hate it?

Are you a cardio person? A weights person? A walker? A swimmer?

Someone who likes to sweat or hates to sweat?

Do you like the gym, prefer classes, or being in nature?

Has the way you exercise changed since becoming a mom? Do you get more or less exercise? Do you like different kinds of movements after your pregnancy?

And how do you feel about that? Do you accept it, are secretly relieved you can “blame” your kids for not having enough time to hit the gym, or do you miss it more than anything in the world?

Are your hormones working FOR you? My story.

I was 29 when I stopped taking hormonal birth control. I assumed my period would just start again within a few weeks. I was healthy and young. But, a few months later, my period was still nowhere in sight.

I waited a few more month, but still nothing…. for a looooong time.

I started to feel concerned. Scared even. Nervous what it would mean about my fertility, my ability to have children.

What was happening to my body? Had I forgotten how to build hormones? Was I infertile now?

On anger. From one mom to another.

On anger. From one mom to another.

Let’s talk about a topic that hits home for many moms: ANGER.

Anger towards…

… ourself

… our spouse

… our loneliness

… our bodies whose shape, hormones and desires feel unrecognizable at times

… the lack of support, appreciation, and understanding

… the absence of tight friendships that once felt like the center of our lives

… the loss of a hip, stylish, flirty lifestyle

… the quiet slipping of romance, flirtation, and butterflies in your relationship

… the drought of spontaneity, freedom, and, ease

I invite you to ask yourself this question before the year ends

This morning my coach took me through a beautiful meditation on centered presence.

Creating more attunement into myself and my world, hearing and honoring my own needs, and building a centered presence has been the work of my personal inner world this year.

In today’s morning meditation, I felt the rewards of my work: a light, easy, joyful sensation in my core that felt present, proud and in harmony with the woman I am today.

While I know better than to expect this feeling to stay with me unwaveringly… fluctuations are normal and I fully expect my life to go through the ebbs and flows, highs and lows or life, BUT –right now, TODAY!– it’s here, dancing a beautiful dance in the cells of my body.

And I am grateful for it; present for it.

My favorite detoxifying foods to survive the holidays

My favorite detoxifying foods to survive the holidays

Alright ladies, let’s be honest for a second, the holidays are soooo sweet and delicious.

I, for one, come from a family that LOVES sugar (yes, capital letter LOVES!).

My husband jokes that we are the only family he knows who orders dessert after breakfast LOL… but, besides it being an on-going joke, it seriously took me a while to get a handle on my sugar addiction in my 20s when I was first learning all about women’s hormonal health and how I can balance my hormones –and hence, my period and fertility, emotions, brain function, skin and hair health etc– naturally.

And even now, when I have increased sugar for a few days in a row, like over Thanksgiving with my family, I begin to crave it like crazy.

All that to say, that I am also not a pleasure robber and get that throughout the holidays we’ll have some more sweets and other indulgent foods than we do throughout the rest of the year.

With that in mind, I do make sure that I keep my favorite detoxifying foods at hand… ya know, to minimize the damage where I can;)

Here is what you can find at my house right now if you were to come over to hang with me and my boys: