Is your weight/ body making you feel LESS VALUABLE?

Is your weight/ body making you feel LESS VALUABLE?

Over the years of working intimately in the space of women’s inner lives (their fears and desires), their hormonal health, their relationships, their career changes, the welcoming of babies, the transition into motherhood and so many more common and unique scenarios, I know one thing for sure:

The way we feel in our bodies matters.

In fact, it’s huge.

When a woman feels good in her body, the way she shows up in the world shifts dramatically.

Neither you nor your kids have to rush all the time

I know that you and I are both aware of this: the rushing, the increasing busy-ness of life, the never-ending to-dos…

Have you ever paid attention to how much you use the words “really quick,” “just 2 minutes,” “hurry,” “fast” and how much you use them with yourself AND with your kids?

I hadn’t even noticed how much this “rush-centered” vocabulary had snuck into my everyday language and my everyday way of being until my husband pointed it out to me about a year ago:

Do you belong where you currently are?

Do you belong where you currently are?

This post is emerging from my deepest parts, because I have been asking, wondering, questioning about where I belong for a while now.

Born in Sonoma Valley, CA.

Raised in Germany.

Moved from coast to coast numerous times; the Bay Area, Boston, NYC, Austin - you are all familiar to me.

I find myself tired of looking for a home that FEELS like home. And yet, I cannot imagine not to belong, not to feel resonance with the earth I live on and the people I live next to. Surrendering that search does not feel like an option to me.

Emily's marriage was slowly dying. Here's how she turned it around.

Emily's marriage was slowly dying. Here's how she turned it around.

I’m sharing this story with you with full permission and encouragement from a former client who remains a dear acquaintance today and serves as a passionate advocate for women and mothers. Her name and all other names in this story have been changed, but her story is real.

I received an email from Emily a few months after she had her second baby. In her email she shared with me that she felt overwhelmed, often teary-eyed and what felt like “overly emotional.” She was unsure what she wanted to do with her career – did she want to scale back? Or maybe, stay at home full time? What would that mean for the family’s finances?

She wrote “I feel like I cannot get a grip on anything, including myself.”

The recipe for happiness

The recipe for happiness

When people come to coaching, it's usually because they're at a crossroads of some sorts. Something in their life isn't working. Some people may be dissatisfied in a particular area, others experience an overall unhappiness that they cannot quite pinpoint. 

Whatever the case may be, everybody has a wish -and a deep-seated hope!- for more happiness. 

Today, I want to share with you the recipe FOR happiness. This is a concept I adapted from Tony Robbins and it is profound, and yet, very simple. 

What the heck is seed cycling? And, can it help you?

What the heck is seed cycling? And, can it help you?

Have you heard about seed cycling?

If not, in a nutshell, seed cycling is a tool used to help regulate your hormones.

It is an amazing, yet gentle tool that I have taught to many of my clients to help them balance their hormones– no matter what stage they are in (period problems during their reproductive years, pre-pregnancy/ enhancing fertility, post-hormonal birth control, postpartum, pre-menopause, or even post-menopause).

Personally, I just started seed cycling (again), because I finally weaned Hendrix completely a few months ago and with that, my period returned.

Let's talk about working out

Let's talk about working out

Do you love it? Hate it?

Are you a cardio person? A weights person? A walker? A swimmer?

Someone who likes to sweat or hates to sweat?

Do you like the gym, prefer classes, or being in nature?

Has the way you exercise changed since becoming a mom? Do you get more or less exercise? Do you like different kinds of movements after your pregnancy?

And how do you feel about that? Do you accept it, are secretly relieved you can “blame” your kids for not having enough time to hit the gym, or do you miss it more than anything in the world?

Are your hormones working FOR you? My story.

I was 29 when I stopped taking hormonal birth control. I assumed my period would just start again within a few weeks. I was healthy and young. But, a few months later, my period was still nowhere in sight.

I waited a few more month, but still nothing…. for a looooong time.

I started to feel concerned. Scared even. Nervous what it would mean about my fertility, my ability to have children.

What was happening to my body? Had I forgotten how to build hormones? Was I infertile now?

On anger. From one mom to another.

On anger. From one mom to another.

Let’s talk about a topic that hits home for many moms: ANGER.

Anger towards…

… ourself

… our spouse

… our loneliness

… our bodies whose shape, hormones and desires feel unrecognizable at times

… the lack of support, appreciation, and understanding

… the absence of tight friendships that once felt like the center of our lives

… the loss of a hip, stylish, flirty lifestyle

… the quiet slipping of romance, flirtation, and butterflies in your relationship

… the drought of spontaneity, freedom, and, ease

I invite you to ask yourself this question before the year ends

This morning my coach took me through a beautiful meditation on centered presence.

Creating more attunement into myself and my world, hearing and honoring my own needs, and building a centered presence has been the work of my personal inner world this year.

In today’s morning meditation, I felt the rewards of my work: a light, easy, joyful sensation in my core that felt present, proud and in harmony with the woman I am today.

While I know better than to expect this feeling to stay with me unwaveringly… fluctuations are normal and I fully expect my life to go through the ebbs and flows, highs and lows or life, BUT –right now, TODAY!– it’s here, dancing a beautiful dance in the cells of my body.

And I am grateful for it; present for it.

My favorite detoxifying foods to survive the holidays

My favorite detoxifying foods to survive the holidays

Alright ladies, let’s be honest for a second, the holidays are soooo sweet and delicious.

I, for one, come from a family that LOVES sugar (yes, capital letter LOVES!).

My husband jokes that we are the only family he knows who orders dessert after breakfast LOL… but, besides it being an on-going joke, it seriously took me a while to get a handle on my sugar addiction in my 20s when I was first learning all about women’s hormonal health and how I can balance my hormones –and hence, my period and fertility, emotions, brain function, skin and hair health etc– naturally.

And even now, when I have increased sugar for a few days in a row, like over Thanksgiving with my family, I begin to crave it like crazy.

All that to say, that I am also not a pleasure robber and get that throughout the holidays we’ll have some more sweets and other indulgent foods than we do throughout the rest of the year.

With that in mind, I do make sure that I keep my favorite detoxifying foods at hand… ya know, to minimize the damage where I can;)

Here is what you can find at my house right now if you were to come over to hang with me and my boys:

5 steps to save your hormones (& sanity) during the holidays

Can you believe that the holidays are just around the corner?!

I mean, you gotta love them, but let’s be real for sec, they are also prettyyyy stressful and they make it just a tad too easy to be unhealthy (at least for food lovers like me) and feel overwhelmed (at least for people pleasing types, again, like me).

With all the delicious food that’s not always great for your hormones, waistline, or mental well-being, and all that family who is so wonderful and lovely and (some of them) also kinda stressful and well…. a lot, it’s a good idea to have some tools in your back pocket for how you can support your health AND your sanity over the next 2 months.

Here is what I suggest for you to consider to stay as balanced, sane and zen as possible:

Do Dad's Get Postpartum Depression/ Anxiety?

The other day my husband and I were snuggled up on the couch and it occurred to me that maybe dads go through their own postpartum symptoms and maybe even get postpartum depression and anxiety.

To tell you the truth, it actually surprised me that that thought had never crossed my mind before… it seems like a pretty obvious one now that I’ve had it.

So I asked my husband what he thought. His answer was “Well, not like you do. My hormones don’t go through all of that (or maybe they do? Continue to read what I found…) and I didn’t give birth, but becoming a dad has a been a huge change for me, too.”

Food Sensitivity Testing - Is It For You?

Food sensitivity testing is getting better and better. And thankfully so!

Why am I sharing this with you (hint: I no longer have headaches!)

I recently did my first food sensitivity test through a simple at home bloodspot test kit and discovered that I am moderately sensitive to cashews, almonds and peanuts (thankfully I am not highly sensitive to anything).

Removing these 3 types of nuts from my diet has completely resolved my debilitating headaches that I started to get twice -sometimes three times!- per week and basically had me lying flat in a dark room... it was awful!

Being headache-free feels like a miracle and seriously like the biggest gift!!

What is Postpartum Thyroiditis (+ what to do if you think you have it)

Today I am going to tackle –or, begin to tackle– a BIG topic: Postpartum Thyroiditis.

Why am I writing about this?

Because so many moms (5-10% of U.S. women) suffer from it, but aren’t being diagnosed and therefore don’t receive proper treatment.

Hypothyroidism can be brought on by pregnancy (possibly connected to nutritional deficiencies from pregnancy and/or a change in your immune system) and so it’s really important that you know about and if you think you have it, take it serious and make sure that you get the medical attention and testing you need.

If you experience any symptoms (see below), please make sure you insist on getting proper testing done (see below) and not let your symptoms be chalked up to simply being a new mom. Unfortunately this happens all too often.

Should you just accept your body the way it is?

After pregnancy, all women's bodies have changed and most bodies also look at least a bit different.

Mine certainly does.

Even though my baby weight came off easily (thankfully I had all the right tools and preparations in place before, during and then after pregnancy), I have excess skin that is visible especially when I bend forward or when Hendrix sits on my hip and squishes my belly with his sweet chubby legs. 

A fun, sassy summer challenge that has nothing to do with food or thought :)

I shared about this challenge on instagram earlier, but I thought I'd post here too so nobody who is interested misses out.

Here's the gist: Want to do a fun summer challenge with me for the remainder of August that has nothing to do with eating healthier or overhauling your emotional world (you know, the things I usually like to chat about;))?

In essence, I looked at myself in the mirror yesterday afternoon and was like “why the heck do I look so bad?” And no, I wasn’t putting myself down per se, I was just truly questioning my outfit choice 🙈