🔮 She said: “Your loyalty is holding you back.”

A few weeks ago, my friends and I booked a reading with a psychic medium.

I've worked with mediums before and have had truly incredible—dare I say, life-changing—experiences.

As soon as we logged on, she said, “Caroline, you've been dealing with headaches.” If you've been here a while, you know about my migraine journey—so yes, she had my full attention.

Note for the skeptics 😉: she only knew my first name.

While so much came through for each of us, one line landed in my bones. She turned to me and said:

“Caroline, you are such a loyal person, and your loyalty has helped you create beautiful relationships—but it's also holding you back.”

Instantly, my eyes filled with tears.

I didn't even fully understand why, but something in deep my core stirred. At first I felt exposed, then confused… How could a part of me I'm so proud of be “bad” for me?

Over the last few weeks, as I've unpacked it, I'm beginning to see that my fierce loyalty sometimes means…

• I blur or ignore boundaries.

• I overstay—in relationships, roles, or commitments—past their expiration date.

• I don't give myself permission to explore new desires, because inviting the new often requires releasing the old.

For the first time, I'm asking: Where is my loyalty no longer needed? Where does it keep me small? Where do I want to call my “loyalty energy” back and where do I want to place it instead?

I'm learning that just because I value loyalty doesn't mean it's free currency. If I want it to stay potent, I have to treat it with care, discernment, and intention—rather than spread it too thin.

Here's why I'm sharing this with you: I'd love to invite you to examine the qualities IN YOU that you're most proud of—with a gentle, honest eye.

Ask yourself or journal about the following Self-Quest prompts:

• What quality of mine am I particularly proud of?

• How is this quality serve me in my life?

• How might it also be limiting me?

Here are a few examples:

If you pride yourself on being disciplined, has that ever slipped into rigidity that strains relationships?

If you're deeply compassionate, do you sometimes give more than you have and sideline your own needs?

If you're independent and solution-focused, do you skip feeling your feelings or asking for help?

Every coin has two sides. Today's invitation is to hold both—and choose with intention and care how you want to spend your coins ❤️

With love as always
Caroline